A couple of Sundays ago at Illuminate, Dan and I had a Q & A with the group.
It was a lot of fun! I don't often get the chance to be onstage with my husband during his messages, so this is always a special treat for me.
At one point though I had to address the ladies about something that I have seen, as well as done too many times myself, whenever a relationship does not pan out. Or it ends badly.
And while watching the Bachelor Pad last night with Dan and observing the antics of Vienna....I stand even firmer on my point.
Ladies, I do not want to sound rude but sometimes we just need to put our big girl panties on when it comes to breakups. You can really tell how mature an individual is by how they react to uncomfortable situations.
If you were in a relationship, and it ended, and it ended badly.....then let it die. Try your very best to move on. But whatever you do, don't try and talk bad about the guy. If he was jerk well trust me, it will all be revealed that he is a jerk. The next girl that dates him will see it.
And please spare me this: "I am just trying to warn the other girls..."
No. If it is your best friend or sister, then I might consider this excuse. But chances are that they witnessed the demise of this relationship and they are not interested in dating your ex. The real reason for talking bad about someone isn't to warn them. It is to create drama. And it does not make you look sweet girl.
It makes you look like a drama queen, bitter, jealous etc. And those are not pretty characteristics. Nor does it glorify God.
In no way am I trying to be harsh. (Guys you should probably listen to this as well). But I believe this is a huge mistake that all of us have made, including me! And I hated how I felt after I bad mouthed an ex.
Yes the pain of a relationship ending is very real and can be very raw and agonizing. I have been there! The healing might take awhile. Again, been there! But gossipping about another individual will not help with the pain. Surrounding yourself with those you love, praying and seeking God and time will close all wounds.
And I would like to leave a little disclaimer. This is not talking about abusive relationships (physical, emotional or spiritual). Clearly, those relationships must be dealt with by your pastor and/or your local law enforcement. I am talking about regular, relatively healthy and normal dating relationships that just don't work out. Just thought I would put that out there because I know someone would probably point that out.
Praying for you ladies today as you seek God's best and pursue Him and glorify Him.
Blessings to you!
On Mondays after Illuminate I am pretty much useless.
You are lucky if I am able to get dinner on the table. And the good Lord knows that there will be no real housework done today.
But I do make time to be silly with my babies. Like today for instance. Sean leaped onto my back and we took a photo together.
I adore random moments like this.
I am so thankful for lazy Mondays.
Have a blessed evening friends.
This Sunday at Illuminate, we will launch a brand new series which hones in on the principles behind Micah 6:8-
"He has told you, O man, what is good;
and what does the Lord require of you
but to do justice and to love kindness, and to walk humbly
with your God?" (ESV)
I am excited for this passage. A reminder of what the Lord desires of us. To love Him. To love People.
To be the church that not focuses so much on the inner walls of our community, but seeks to spread the glorious riches of the Gospel to those on the outside. Not by merely speaking words but by our actions.
Seeking justice and care for orphans and homeless.
Being kind to our neighbor...whomever they may be and regardless of whatever they believe.
Walking and living humbly before our Creator, the One who orchestrates our comings and our goings, our lives and who orchestrated the greatest sacrifice recorded in history so that we may have eternal life.
Are you excited?
I know I am. I am ready for Dan to unpack all that God has revealed within his heart. The vision for not just Illuminate but for everyone.
See you there.
"In my own little corner
In my own little chair
I can be whatever I want to be." ~Cinderella (Rogers and Hammerstein)
On a gorgeous Saturday morning, Madi had the opportunity to attend a dinner theater, which just happened to be having performances of Rogers and Hammerstein's Cinderella.
I was so excited for her to witness this show. Growing up, I was able to see it on TV and my parents recorded it for me and my sister so that we could watch it over and over to our hearts content. Learning the songs and routines together and even performing them at Talent shows. (Well at least my sister did ha!)
Much to my surprise, Dan and I got to tag along too! We made arrangements for my parents to watch Sean and off we were to the Candlelight Pavilion to see Cinderella.
It did not disappoint.
Dan joked that I was more excited than Madi was for the show. Which was probably true. It is one of my favorites.
Madi wore her favorite princess crown and dressed in her pretty dress and felt like a princess.
She even got to take a picture with Cinderella herself!
She had such a great time!
If you have never seen Cinderella the musical, it is much better than the Disney version (no offense Disney!)
Costumes, music and magic oh my! Perfect for little girls =).
We had a wonderful time being with Madi and enjoying the day with her. Thanks Mom and Dad Harper!
Dan and I got to have a date night/birthday celebration for just the two of us last night.
We headed out to our favorite hangout in Orange County-Old Town Orange.
Better known as The Circle.
We loved it.
Ate at a really cute restaurant called El Ranchito. Yummy Mexican food and atmosphere and the restaurant looked as if it had been an old church.
Then we walked around and went inside the cutest little candy store and bought the kiddos Buzz and Rapunzel Pez Dispensers. (Remember those?!)
Then enjoyed yummy coffee and hung out =)
Plus I got to wear my new dress from Ruche. Who doesn't like to dress up for their birthday or date night!
Have a great Saturday friends!
I woke up this morning so excited for the chance to celebrate a new decade of life. My twenties were filled with experiences, heartache, love, children, laughter, trials, excitement.
I have had an amazing 29 years. I am excited for 30 because with this new age comes new challenges. New dreams.
I am so excited.
Thank you to all who wished me a happy birthday through your text messages, voicemails, Facebook and twitter. I am so blessed by the people who come into my life.
Love you all! I can't wait to document the next ten years with you through this blog.
*Special Note- This post you are about to read was crafted a week on a late night blogging binge ;). It was on my heart so much that I had to write it. I know so many of us are struggling and feeling the financial crunch, but if we can help just one child, it would make world of difference. Also, imagine my lovely surprise literally the next day when I read of not one, but two young ladies who gave their birthdays and wishes up in order to benefit others. Please read their story as well: Kaitlin and Rachel.
The last few days have been purely superficial. I have had a lot of fun sharing with you all some of the things that I have fallen in love with over the internet.
Perhaps you have found new favorites. Perhaps not.
But today I come to you asking for a huge birthday gift. But the gift isn't for me.
It is for a child locked in the struggle of poverty. A child, through no fault of their own, waking up in mud huts in india, walking barefoot and taking care of their baby brothers and sisters due to losing their parents to AIDS in Africa. They are the most innocent of all beings and I am asking, the day before my 30th birthday if you would help.
Compassion International is determined to change the life of a child in poverty. Dan and I are so blessed to sponsor a beautiful little girl in India.
If you are able, would you consider helping a child? Compassion can't do this without its sponsors, so imagine the opportunity to be a part of a movement to end poverty.
If you are unable to commit to giving each month, there are plenty of ways you can still give and help Compassion. Feel free to click on my Compassion sidebar to obtain more information!
Many thanks and blessings to each of you!! And thank you for being a part of my 30th birthday. I so appreciate it and love each of you that stops by to read my little corner of the internet.
One of my favorite things growing up was back to school shopping.
Whenever my mom took me and my sisters out to find new school clothes, I was always the one she had to pull aside and make put clothes back the rack. Because I would practically pick out the entire store.
I clearly had a problem.
I love shopping. I know it sounds so shallow and awful to say outloud...but it is true. I love it.
It really is good that God had me marry a Pastor and we don't make tons of money because the good Lord knew I needed to humble myself in the fashion and shopping department. He expects me to be a good steward of my resources and of my gifts....so I am working on not shopping as much.
I am much better now than I used to be.
But since it is my birthday this week I thought I would share a couple of my favorite shops.
Ruche. I have gushed about this little shop on my blog before. I am still in love with their clothes and their branding. Gorgeous stuff. Again, if you have not checked them out, RUN!!!! They are awesome.
Laurenly : I love this shop that is located in Old Town Orange, California. Beautiful clothes and the sweetest girls I have ever met. If you are ever in SoCal, the Orange Circle is a fantastic place to hang out. Great food, great shops...and Laurenly. Perfection. Plus, Laurenly carries jewelry from 31 Bits, a company that features jewerly created by impoverished women from Northern Uganda. Please check them out!
What are your favorite places to shop for clothes?
Sometimes I get so caught up in the daily rituals of life that I forget to enjoy myself.
Because honestly, most of my days look like this:
*make breakfast for kids who can't sleep in past 6:30 AM
*Do whatever household chore is on the schedule for the day
*Take out trash (that should be a man's job...yeah I said it)
I bet I could put a million other things on that list. Even playing with the kids can seem like a "chore" if I let it. Sometimes I behave as if I am babysitting them and I am not really engaged with them.
I love this necklace by Lisa Leonard. A sweet and beautiful reminder hanging around your neck to enjoy the life you have.
To Play everyday.
Playing and having fun can get lost in the mundane. My kids are awesome. They are funny and loveable and creative.
I want to play with them everyday.
I want to laugh and play with my husband everyday.
In fact, I want to laugh a whole lot more than I have been.
That is a new goal for my upcoming birthday.
Laugh. Play. What awesome little yet powerful words.
What inspires you to play everyday?